She doesn't get to say goodbye.... - Adoption.com Forums

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Originally Posted by URmysunshine4 If you have had a child for a year hasn't that child developed a bond with FP & isn't a year enough time for family to come forward?

One would think so unless that one controls the system. As far as I am aware only two states, NY and I believe either TX or CA out foster parents first in line when adoption is plan and child has been with FPs at least 12 months. This needs to be federally mandated, not that the states do a good job following the federal laws either. And I think 12 months is too generous for the 0-2 group. That should be 6 months.

I have heard cases where distant "kin" have come out of the woodwork even after 18 months for a newborn. Often times it may be the first that they have heard of the child. In one case, the "kin" had never even met the bio mom. She was a cousin three times removed but she wanted a baby and may have gotten that baby, I never heard the final outcome as the FPs retained an attorney to fight it.

As long as the agency can add that placement to the RU bucket, that seems to be all that matters.

OP, I understand a bit. Chubbs bio mom didn't want to do a goodbye visit in jail. We agreed to do one post finalization but she screwed up and is gone for a year now. It is really sad to me. She has seen pictures but not seen him since she abandoned him in the hospital.

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